BASIC TIPS that will ease you into the dildo luv lifestyle.
TIP: NO lube = NO fun!
TIP: The shower is a playground.
TIP: Visit mother nature first.
There's no such thing as too much lube. And with the only exception being dildo oral play (more on this later), never try dildo play without some. Oh, you could, but don't expect the relationship to last. These are "guys" you will always want to be slimy! We help determine the proper type of lube for the dildo you use under DILDO SPECIFICS > dildo luv Materials. (Photo by ian dooley on Unsplash)
TIP: Visit mother nature first.
TIP: The shower is a playground.
TIP: Visit mother nature first.
You wouldn't start a good workout or go on a jog without using the restroom first. Dildo play is no different, especially with anal play. And for deeper anal play, a good douching beforehand is highly recommended. The exception to this visit would be for intentional "water sports" with dildos, but that's usually done by more advanced users that know what to expect and have a prepared play area, if not the shower.
TIP: The shower is a playground.
TIP: The shower is a playground.
TIP: The shower is a playground.
For a place to learn or do anal play, it's hard to beat the shower. Any little mess can just be washed away and post clean-up is a breeze. Once you feel comfortable with a new dildo in the shower, you'll step out into another play area with way more confidence. The exception would be for vibrators, unless they are waterproof. (Photo by Taylor Harding on Unsplash)
TIP: SLOW means GO!
TIP: Sometimes...aftercare.
TIP: The shower is a playground.
For the dildo luv lifestyle in general, this is actually DILDO PLAY RULE NUMBER ONE that we start out with on the HOME page. And it's also a Tip worth repeating. Dildo play is not a race and if you start too fast, you'll crash and burn in the form of too much negative pain. You want to experience the good stuff that makes you moan, grunt, drool and leak pleasure fluids. So take a deep breath, relax, start slow, then enjoy the ride!
TIP: Give it a break.
TIP: Sometimes...aftercare.
TIP: Sometimes...aftercare.
You're excited because you've made some great progress with your new dildo, but it's starting to feel a bit sore down there. Are you doing something wrong? Nope. Just give yourself and your body a break. Training with dildos is a form of mild trauma to those sensitive areas. Let it heal up for a couple days, remembering DILDO PLAY RULE NUMBER TWO: Always listen to your body. You won't lose your progress. (Photo by Drew Coffman on Unsplash)
TIP: Sometimes...aftercare.
TIP: Sometimes...aftercare.
TIP: Sometimes...aftercare.
Especially with anal play, once you've advanced a bit, you'll learn how much more you can push yourself when training for bigger dildos. Or maybe you just had a long and amazing session with your current dildo size...and it's wiped you out! As just mentioned in the previous TIP, even if you can now take that dildo easily, you're slightly traumatizing the body in a place not designed for quite so much activity. That, plus the endorphins along with incredible orgasmic sensations, will take their toll. Were your legs shaky at any point? Did you get light-headed? There you go. Especially if you just used EXTREME dildos that went deep and wide, expect that expulsion sensation to hang around for about an hour or two, until your tender, swollen and stretched insides can relax back to normal. Take a short nap, sit and chill, visit the commode a few times to drain yourself of lube, and revel in the great time just had! (Photo by Vladislav Muslakov on Unsplash)
TIP: Don't forget fingernails.
TIP: Don't forget fingernails.
TIP: Don't forget fingernails.
They're very easy to overlook until a show of blood reminds you they're still there! As durable as the vaginal and intestinal tissues can be from blunt activity, your nails can easily cause minor to moderate lacerations if you're not careful and you probably won't even feel it happen. Blood is the last thing you want to see when you withdraw your fingers or hand during dildo, vaginal or anal play, but if you do and there was no previous indication of pain, chances are a fingernail got you. For any internal body play, trimming and smoothing fingernails very short is ideal and highly recommended, along with a thorough sanitizing hand washing. But if you just have to keep some nail fashion, it would be smart to invest in a box of nitrile gloves (quantities will vary by manufacturer). They are better than latex or vinyl, more hypoallergenic and not expensive. Black is the favored "BDSM color" used in the lifestyle, but these very tactile gloves can be found in many colors.
If a scratch or minor cut should happen, the first thing NOT to do is panic at the site of your own blood. Stop your play and calmly wipe yourself up with toilet paper or a clean, wet washcloth. Give yourself a moment to make sure any flow of blood slows or seems to stop. Put on a pad or dark underwear, then check yourself a few minutes later. A slight show or blood droplet into the toilet after a slight push may still be possible. Give it a few more minutes and repeat the check again. By the second or third check, a toilet paper wiping should be just slightly pink (from mixing with the lube) or back to normal and clear of blood. Then give your body a few days to regenerate and heal itself. (Photo by Benedikt Geyer on Unsplash)
TIP: Emergency lube!
TIP: Don't forget fingernails.
TIP: Don't forget fingernails.
DAMN! You were all psyched for a good anal training session until you realized you forgot to pick up the lube...now what?!
Never fear – saliva is here!
Under normal conditions, we always recommend lube as the first choice for dildo play. It's designed just for this purpose, fast and easy to use. But in the case of this minor emergency, you only need three things to create a nice batch of some of the slickest stuff on earth – your very own natural mucus. Those three things are:
1. A smooth 1.5 inch thick dildo (or smaller size).
2. A medium size drinking glass (or small bowl).
3. The ability or desire to deepthroat.
For those of you who remember what we're talking about, your ah-ha! moment is happening right about now.
For the rest of you, the reason this is not a common "go to" is because it takes a little time and not everyone is crazy about, or even tried, oral with a faux phallus. However, anyone who has practiced developing their deepthroating skills, knows it produces an over abundance of a very natural protectant in the form of slimy, thick and stringy mucus. Not just the little bit of spittle you work up from chewing gum or smelling something delicious, but gobs and gobs of the gooey stuff, compatible with any dildo!
How to actually go about deepthroating with a dildo is reviewed under its own section (see dildo luv Fun Zones) for those who have yet to attempt developing this skill. But for those of you who have, just catch the magical stuff in your container and you'll have more than enough lube for that anal play session you thought was a bust. Toodles!
ADVANCED TIPS for those deeper into the dildo luv lifestyle.
TIP: Getting past "the wall."
TIP: Warm-up with your "digital" speculum.
TIP: Warm-up with your "digital" speculum.
This one is a biggie. Many experienced anal aficionados would say there are two kinds of anal play in this world: play before "hitting the wall" and anal play after – it makes that much difference. Many people don't even know it's a thing or are ever instructed how to get past (enter) this point. All they know is that it "pokes in there and hurts" after 6 to 7 inches. People who really want to enjoy anal sex that don't know how to breach this point, can get very frustrated and stop anal altogether. That would be a shame and we are here to help you unlock this magic door into a world of penetration nirvana that all can experience – female, male or otherwise!
We're making this sound more difficult than it really is because it's so important. But it's really simple – you just have to navigate into the sigmoid colon! The reason people miss it, is because it's a smaller opening, offset, and somewhat squished closed at the end of the rectum. And this is because it's literally at a bend called the rectosigmoid junction. But it's no more than another hole that must be entered. Continuing on, you will learn best with a thinner (1.25" to 1.5" Dia.) 10" or longer dildo. You could use an 8 or 9 inch dildo, but it will be a very exciting moment so you really want to notice your success when it disappears inside your body. You will feel it too, strange at first, but see it even better!
Clean yourself out and loosen (warm-up) your anus first. Did you use your enema bulb or shower wand? (Hold that thought, because you're about to have an ah-ha! moment.) With the aforementioned dildo size, usually a good clean-out will also suffice as the warm-up for this effort. Then here's where the beneficial Tip really starts: For those who are attempting this for the first time – lift your left leg in such a way that you are resting your foot onto a counter, like the bathroom sink. Lean in slightly so you can rest your left shoulder against your upraised knee. This position will slightly lift the intestine, allowing for much easier straightening of the sigmoid colon above the rectum upon entering. Next, lube a finger or two and feel up inside your squishy rectum while giving a slight "BM" push downward at the same time. The push is to help bring the opening to you, since your fingers are only a few inches long. See if you can locate the small offset hole into the sigmoid colon as your rectum descends. It should feel like it's to the backside of the rectum, not in the center (it will shift a bit from its normal position due to the pushing), and will be about the width of a finger. If you can't find it, that's ok. If you can, great, as it will give you something to aim for. (Remember sticking in your enema bulb tube or shower wand? Bingo!) After that little exercise, the next step is to insert the lubed dildo into yourself while repeating that same push, bringing the opening that you may have felt into an easier position to enter. Gently push the dildo in, aiming for that hole. If no success, back it out and try again. This may take several tries or even different attempts, but eventually you will find it. And when you do, that dildo will look like it's disappearing into your body and you'll feel like Neo in the Matrix when they plug into his head! Remember, you are breaching a new hole, so it may "ouch" just a tad upon entry, but it may not. This hole is already far more flexible than the anus, and the pushing also helps it relax. With practice, entering will become much easier, even in different positions.
So, good luck and be patient! You can trust that it's there, and it will welcome you in!
TIP: Warm-up with your "digital" speculum.
TIP: Warm-up with your "digital" speculum.
TIP: Warm-up with your "digital" speculum.
Once you get to know your own body, all levels of dildo users can train with this warm-up technique, but for LARGE and EXTREME Level users, it's almost a must that jump-starts the loosening process – anywhere from 2 to 3 inches of gape, or larger depending on the individual. "But didn't you say that SLOW always means GO?" Yes, always, even in this instance. However, at the larger levels, user's holes will be trained loose enough that they will easily be able to bypass smaller dildo warm-ups with this technique if they want. Keep in mind, these Tips are mainly intended for the benefit of users still gaining experience, but most of the advanced users that read this, already practice their own techniques, likely very similar to these. A variation of this technique could be applied vaginally, but these positions and steps will be anal specific. This can be achieved by a minimum of four reps with a speculum-like stretch, pulling in opposite directions. You'll be mimicking the actions and results of a medical speculum device like the one pictured above, and unless you're confident that you've thoroughly cleaned out, we recommend doing this in the shower. And one more reminder before we begin, fingernails should be trimmed short and filed smooth or gloved.
STRETCH REP #1 – is only done with one or two fingers (digits) from each hand. For best results, one hand's fingers should be inserted into the anus from the front side of the body and the other from the back side. Lube those fingers and ass generously, then reach up and in, gently inserting both finger sets until you feel them loop over the anal band(s) – it should feel about an inch deep. Slowly begin to pull, spreading yourself open until you just start feeling your old friend "lightning pain" say hello. Hold that for a quick second and release. Wait a minute but not too long. Any minor pain – because you purposefully kept it that way – should subside in a moment.
STRETCH REP #2 – Same steps, except this time insert two or three fingers from each hand. You'll notice that you can already pull yourself open farther before any pain starts to complain. Minor pleasurable sensations may also begin to be felt around your anus and perineum. Again, stop at the pain and hold, then release. Wait a couple minutes this time to let your hole fully recuperate, because the next pull will get down to business.
STRETCH REP #3 – Same steps, except now you're going to pull yourself open with firm intention, but not quite as hard as you can. Your hole will feel more like a small gape and maybe the rectum will start peeking a bit before the pain says far enough. And yet, in the process, orgasmic sensations during the pull may also be growing pleasantly stronger. Hold to a count of three. Release and wait a few. You're doing great!
STRETCH REP #4 – This could be your final stretch before starting your dildo play, but that's up to you and your goals. Ready and stabilize yourself into position and pull your anus open very hard, holding it as long as you can. You arms may actually shudder a bit from the strain and you should feel as if your hole won't open any further to the point that you think you might actually rip yourself. Never fear – unless you have hulk-like strength – flesh is very elastic and tough, and that's why you stretch open incrementally. That's also why training is so important for EXTREME dildo growth, because your stretching advancement at your max will be difficult to actually feel. But it occurs. You should be stretched loose enough that you'll feel gaped and maybe a small peek of prolapse. Clenching your anus closed will feel like it takes great effort now (no need to worry). Any minor pain will be numbed and likely have already been replaced by ever growing pleasure sensations that have your eyes rolling a bit. You're ready to rock and roll and give that dildo a go!
TIP: Do the twist!
TIP: Do the twist!
TIP: Do the twist!
When an EXTREME level of anal play is reached with thick dildos, you sometimes realize the trained body cavity opening that was once your normal anus, may have width limitations – especially in men, since their pelvis wasn't designed for childbirth. Just at the most inner anal ring, you may feel what seems like unyielding pressure throughout the lower ischium bones on either side of the pelvic girdle. That pressure will differ for every individual, but there is more room to stretch your hole front to back than there is side to side. Unless it's a perfect butt plug, EXTREME phallic head shapes and angles aren't always perfectly round. You can work around that pressure by inserting your behemoth dildo 90 degrees (sideways), then if necessary, rotate it back around once inserted into the rectum. Voilà! Continued EXTREME dildo luv fun!
If you're like most, those inhuman penetrations will have you grunting and groaning, reeling from masochistic pleasure and forgetting about the twist! Just be ready for that jolting withdrawal when your bodies natural expulsion reflex wells up and orgasmically pushes that ef weapon back out! Its exit can be so intense that bodily fluids will usually gush out along with it!
TIP:
TIP: Do the twist!
TIP: Do the twist!
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